Whilst 2018 marks the continuous cycle of life, it also marks a continuous learning experience for self-betterment. The past year had been great. it brought about a lot of patience, a lot of exploration, and a lot of immense realisations about what truly matters. Here are a few lessons I’ve learned and a little travel wish list:
1. Self-doubt is as bad as mixing libations on an empty stomach
I’ve been reflecting about life lately and how the huge ball of confidence I had as a child seem to have been misplaced somewhere along the way. The past year, I’ve been in situations where the only outcome seemed to be failure. Surprisingly, I’ve actually been championed to progress and am now a few steps closer to reaching some life and professional goals.
I get why we doubt ourselves so much. Life can become competitive – we compete (and compare ourselves) so much with others. However, the biggest challenge we have lies within, and when we question our own decisions, it’s more destructive than productive. All self-doubt brings is unnecessary stress, which can snowball into anxiety and health issues.
Excited to start my new role next year and also excited to see people from my old job for great catch up sessions!
2. Live off more often
2017 marked issues on Instagram algorithms, how Facebook ain’t how it used to be, how the blogging world is being saturated by sponsored BS and all that.
Whilst social media has played a huge part of my life, recent holidays where WiFi and mobile data had been sparse made me realise how much I missed actually living. I’ve loved not giving a care as to whether I should create an IG story about what I’m experiencing. I have enjoyed looking at my family and friends, etching their beautiful faces and melodious laughter in my head. I’ve soaked in more fresh air and the peace of not knowing into my lungs and into my soul. I truly was in the moment, and I was truly not distracted. It felt great, and I am keen to do more of this in the next years or so.
3. Silence out the noise
I’ve recently been in a situation where I wanted to retaliate badly. Long story short, I found out that someone whom I’ve never met had been saying demeaning (and not factual) shit towards me and people I care about. I know nothing and have said nothing about this person, and I’ve no interest in her at all.
Naturally, I was very annoyed but in all honesty, I was very much “MEH” after. There’s no point stooping down that level, and there’s no point to say ill things about someone or something I know nothing about. Let’s keep it classy – not trashy – on this side.
2017 showed me that there are people who have way too many opinions about things. People who think they know you or what’s best for you. I’ve realised that whilst some unsolicited advice make sense, some account for subterfuge. End of the day, you should listen to what your gut tells you – and also your parents and life mentors, who will always have your best interests at heart.
4. There are people who matter…
…and there are people who don’t (see point #3). And you need to invest time in your relationships with people who do. Surround yourself with good people; ie people who will help you become the best version of yourself and who will inspire you to be better.
5. There’s such a lot of world to see
A line from one of my favourite songs, which holds true. 2017 made me see and experience a variety of cultures that gave me a sense of wanting to live and breathe more. The differences I’ve noted are eye-opening. I’ve been rather lazy, holding off visiting places and venturing off to other cities “cos they’re near anyway”. 2018, however, slides in with wanderlust and a great big itch to explore more. I’ve no travel plans yet, but here are a few places that are on my radar…
BORDEAUX – I’d love to go visit Bordeaux for a proper food and wine tour, as well as a decent taste of Fete de la Musique. I’ve loved French festival music from when I collected Putumayo CDs in my teens so this would be fab to experience in real life!
CINQUE TERRE – I’ve been putting off Cinque Terre because I’m more familiar with the French Riviera and the beaches seem more favourable. However, this place has been on my list for yonks and I’m keen to tick this box sooner than later!
ROMANIA – I’ve met a lot of people saying that Romania is absolutely beautiful with its mountainous regions and scenery. It’s definitely a place of interest for this year or the next, simply because I absolutely need a green and clean adventure after months of work in the big smoke.
MUSCAT – I’ve been seeing a lot of Muscat photos around and it looks like a great destination for some sun during the colder months! The spaces are lush and the people seem friendly, so I’m considering this for Fall/Autumn this year.
CROATIA – Croatia was the country I gave up for a Thai holiday last year. I’m hoping to be able to go this year for a dip in Krka, a few sunset drinks in Hvar, a nice walk in Old Town Split and a nice frolic along the Dalmatian coast.
LONDON – I’ve been in London for over a decade so I’m definitely not going to be a stranger in my home city no more! I’m gonna try to explore more of its hidden gems, streets and mews! Here’s to more weekend walks and exploration!
Obviously, there’s loads more I want to see but with passport renewals coming around, I’ll need to plan itineraries a little bit better!
So there you have it… a few life lessons hit, I’m ready for 2018 and I hope you are all ready, too. Self-betterment is a key theme for this year, for sure. Life’s too short to be mediocre, and it’s definitely too short to be a cliché.